The answer to that will determine the fate of your relationship: Do you know how men determine if a woman is girlfriend material (the type of woman he commits himself to) or if he see’s you as just a fling? Click here to take our quick (and shockingly accurate) “Is He Losing Interest” Quiz right now and find out if he’s really losing interest in you…. And it’s a huge turn off to men. Thinking that your happiness lies in the hands of another person is the neediest mindset you can possibly have. can’t help it especially when i feel like he’s not giving me enough attention. guess i need to learn how to understand him better. most of the time we want men to understand our “needs” but what happens is we exercise too much on our neediness that we tend to be so demanding and men do not appreciate that. You really need to communicate with your husband about this situation. My husband does his best. Planning for the future is a natural part of being a human being. Understanding neediness is so important for sustaining a happy, healthy relationship. If he says no, therapy is in order. First of all, if you are in a committed relationship, I am not saying to go cheat and flirt with a bunch of other men. When you are needy, you look to the other person to fulfill you and bring joy into your life instead of looking to yourself for this. He's a great dad and he has provided us with a beautiful house and a nice life. The problem is, you cannot “have” or “possess” a relationship or a person. You recognize that neediness stems from fear of loss. Here’s a good question to ask yourself when trying to determine if your response to a particular situation with a guy is needy: Did he make me a promise that he would do something and then bailed? Do not fixate on outcomes. Anyway, I hope you know I am not trying to criticize and simply trying to help you. How old is he? Click here to take our quick (and shockingly accurate) “Is He Losing Interest” Quiz right now and find out if he’s really losing interest in you…, Tagged as: Acknowledge that he's exhausted and offer him a shoulder rub, thank him for working so hard for the family. If he already has everything he wants… why take action and make things more serious? i know sometimes i may be asking for too much already, this is a good reminder, i have grown needy and this is because i was with a man who was very insensitive. We’ve started arguing about me needing his help after he gets off work and I’m afraid he’ll end our relationship because of this.What to do? But recently he's been really busy at work plus doing side jobs and constantly saying how tired he is. The list could go on. How can you get rid of it so that you don’t accidentally drive away the man you want? The basis of most needy behavior is fear. Focus on the present and you will finally stop the cycle of neediness once and for all. i don’t really have to ask, i know i am needy most of the time. i just got the answer and yes, i’m a bit being needy especially now that he’s become more occupied with office work :'(, wow, i am indeed needy. Are you needy or is it that other people are just being neglectful? How do you fix it? this is a good post so women could understand better and avoid being TOO needy. How Well Are You Coping with a Breakup? acting needy towards guys, It’s a way of thinking not a set of behaviors you can imitate. you are not being to needy. What happens if you’re needy but also bring something to the table? but it’s my way of feeling secure and loved. And he takes these extra jobs without even consulting me. Being needy isn’t something you do it’s an inner thought process you have.